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Monday, February 13, 2012

Hearts & War

I like Valentine's Day. I don't understand why people hate it. Of the 27 years that I've been alive on this planet, I've had a boyfriend on exactly 2 Valentine's Days, and I still love it.

Part of that may be because I live in Minnesota, and by the time February 14th rolls around, I'm sick of being cold and depressed and it's always dark and I look for an excuse to buy flowers and look at pink hearts. I'm also not adverse to rom-coms.

I should confess that I rarely spend Valentine's alone, even though I don't have a boyfriend. And spending Valentine's with your friends is about ten billion times spending it with boyfriends. Friends are fun and silly and don't care that you want to go see This Means War almost entirely because you like looking at Tom Hardy and Chris Pine. Friends also don't judge if you eat a entire box of chocolate by yourself or if you put on sweatpants when you get home instead of a thong. (In fact, my friends probably prefer if I put on sweatpants instead of a thong.)

To me Valentine's Day is a day to have fun and act girlie and remind the people that you care about that you do in fact care about them. Nothing about that sounds depressing to me. It just sounds like a good time.

P. S. I am actually going to see This Means War tomorrow with a few of my pals. Expect some type of review on this tomorrow or the next day, because man, do I dig Tom Hardy.

36 comments:

  1. I love Valentine's Day, and I don't understand why others think it's depressing either. I don't look at it as holiday dedicated to "lovers," but rather as the celebration of love itself. Everyone loves SOMETHING - even if it's their iPod or Kindle, it's STILL love. *smiles*

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  2. Sometimes you just have to put on a rom-com and look at the eye candy. Even if it means you have to resort to hitting the mute button to avoid the dialog. :P

    Happy Valentine's Day! Enjoy the movie! :)

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  3. Very refreshing perspective of Valentines day :) I think you're right. Chocolate, romcom and friends is the way to go.

    Sarah Allen
    (my creative writing blog)

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  4. I love the day. I hate the commercialism involved. Give me a handmade card any day. Valentines day isn't always about a significant other. It's a day to remind you where your heart belongs. Where ever that may be.

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  5. EXACTLY!!!! It's a time to enjoy. Lotsa folks get down on the things that are small joys in life. I never understood why. Just lame, I guess.

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  6. I agree Amanda about the Valantines day being something to look forward to between Christmas and Summer. :-) I live in Indiana and by the time Frebruary is here, Im ready for the warm weather.

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  7. Well I am pretty sure I wont be getting a valentines card or a bunch of roses today... single also. But a beautiful friend of mine has given me a big chocolate heart to let me know that its the thought that counts!!! And you know what, every time I get a letter from a reader that says, "I love your book..." well that is the BEST! That makes it feel like Valentines day everyday!

    Amanda, from one single girl to another - Happy Valentines Day!

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  8. Have fun at the movies! I'm taking myself to see The Vow for similar asthetic reasons.

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    1. Oh I think that will make you cry - take the tissues!!!

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  9. Ooooh Girl! Have you seen Warrior? That is some damn fine Tom Hardy right there!

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  10. I treat it like any other day... it means nothing to me. I watch romantic movies and eat chocolate and wear sweatpants every day! :D

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  11. I always end up celebrating more with my kids than my husband, who'd prefer to sit it out (in the seat conveniently located in front of the tv).

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  12. I hope you someday find a Valentine/boyfriend/husband that will be all those things you cherish in your friends. Those guys are out there, & it took me 29 years to find one & 31 years to marry him. Valentine's Day should be about laughs, love & enjoying the ones your with. Love you Amanda - Happy Valentine's Day to you & your furry kids.

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  13. My husband makes a bigger deal out of it than I do. He usually gets me one of those personalized books from bookbyyou.com, where you can put yourself in as the heroine and your significant other as the hero. It's pretty fun. BUT I had a ton of fun celebrating V-Day before I met my hubby, too. I did the same thing you're doing- going out with friends and celebrating with them! I hope the movie's awesome! I love me some Chris Pine. :-)

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  14. I've never been bi on Valentine's day, but I don't hate it either. Always just been kind of neutral. But all the inexpensive candy that's so readily available on February 15th is nice!!

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  15. Valentine Day haters! well, you can't please everybody at the same time. The last 15 years I've been single exactly ONE Valentine's Day, and the other 14 were divided 6-8 between just two guys. I gotta disagree with you here; I don't think that spending Valentine's with friends is ten billion times better than spending it with boyfriends, at least not in my experience (my friends ignore me). Even my first boyfriend who I don't care a zip for was a little girly himself and would get me presents, including the entire box of chocolates to eat by myself (one of his few redeeming qualities in my memories). Second boyfriend (this is The One) is the one who actually buys me the sweatpants, and rents rom-coms for me (Something Borrowed! That Dex guy is HOT) which he refuses to watch with me... in return we watch Sin City together though I know he just likes to watch Jessica Alba dancing - I don't complain, so do I... PLUS my #1 hollywood love Josh Hartnett himself is there for a bit of movie for my viewing pleasure. I skip the lovey-dovey candlelit dinner and thong because how terrible would it be if my house burned down on Valentine's day because I knocked over the candles while failing to sit still wearing that damn uncomfortable thing.

    Maybe it's because my friends expect me to BE with my boyfriend, but they totally ignore me on V-day. Jerks! You've got some great friends Amanda :) But yeah spent with boyfriends or friends, Valentine's Day is still fun and a good excuse to spend time together with your loved ones.

    Happy Valentine's Day!

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  16. I love Valentine's day. Chocolates, hearts, romantic comedies, what's not love. Can't wait for the review of This Means War. I'm planning to see that at the end of the month.

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  17. Your so cute Amanda! I'm right there with ya. Well I'm married but if I wasn't I wouldn't hate valentines day neither! Love all the pink!! Lol!!

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  18. Amanda: Like your attitude about Valentine's day; makes good sense. Also, gotta say, so proud of you for not giving up pursuing your dream in writing. You paid your dues and succeeded.Congratulations. Can't wait for Honalee; love the cover face.

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  19. I think you may be missing a word or two after "ten billion times" ...

    BTW, I adore your books and your blog.

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  20. I love V-Day! I never had a Valentine until I started dating my husband so I was pretty much alone all the time and I agree, spending it with your friends is SO much more fun than spending it with your significant other. Kinda makes me hate being married on V-Day lol!

    And I still use it as an excuse to spoil myself :)

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  21. I love this happy day, especially when young kids are around. They are fun days

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  22. i love v day and feel sad also. coz' my son passed away on this day ten years ago..

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  23. Enjoy your Valentine's Day as you see fit. As for the movie...uh, Chris Pine...yeah...okay...hotness. Um, sorry. I'll stop now :-) But seriously, enjoy the movie.

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  24. Ciao
    I write from Italy.
    I love your books, especially the trilogy.
    Often when I read I try to imagine the faces of the protagonists who
    Finn say if it were so?

    http://youtu.be/XAr1Q1_vz2w

    did you think so? I'd like your own
    answer! You're great ... Matilde

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  25. Despite being male, I love Valentine's Day. I also see it more of a celebration of love than what a lot of people view it as simply relationship based. I am 34 yrs old and have been with the same girl for 16 yrs, married for 15. I work away from home on a month on / month off basis so it's important to show love every day rather than one day a year. Having said that, on the day that celebrates love, spread it round I say. My 4.5 yo daughter had a Valentine Day party at pre-school today and she tripped out when a lady delivered her a bunch of helium heart balloons and a massive pink butterfly and a note from her Dad. Yes, my wife had a delivery as well! Love is like writing, it's always better to show, not tell. There is nothing wrong with showing the people you love how much they mean to you.

    AndrewJameshq@twitter.com

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  26. I'm looking forward to seeing that movie as well.
    Happy Valentine's Day :)

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  27. You're right Amanda: spending time with friends on Valentine's Day rules. It's especially nice when your girlfriend happens to be your best friend. :)

    And, um, there are worse things to get your sweetheart than a free copy of my paranormal romance, Deadly Reflections: http://www.amazon.com/dp/b006n4ysvy It's Free through Thursday. Happy Valentine's Day everyone!

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  28. Valentine's day is just one day of 365 days where our passion for living is increased and expressed directly to someone else.

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  29. Tom Hardy, Yes, yes! Sound like you know how to spend your holiday. I just think it's another calendar holiday where you feel pressured into spending it the way the media and marketing thinks you should - wrong.

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  30. It's not that I hate Valentine's Day -- I don't -- but the fact that it's pretty pointless. I don't see having one day to profess or celebrate my romance. I do that every day -- we all should. Kinda the same way that I feel the whole "Peace on Earth, Goodwill toward Men (and women-persons, according to God in 'Oh God')" thing is a bit pointless at Christmas -- that should be practiced year round, not just one month a year. Or giving thanks for one day in November when we should be giving thanks for the blessings we have **every** day.

    It's a me thing, I guess.

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  31. I can't wait to see what you think of the movie! I've been dying to see it for the exact same reason - and also The Vow because Channing Tatum (who I refer to in my head as "Yummy Tater") is in it...

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  32. "Part of that may be because I live in Minnesota, and by the time February 14th rolls around, I'm sick of being cold and depressed and it's always dark and I look for an excuse to buy flowers and look at pink hearts."

    I wish they all could be Minnesota giiirls...

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  33. Nice piece - I just wrote a blog post about how love has become overly romanticized by a legacy of poets and writers overselling it like a tub of cheap candy.
    Love is hard and tough and you gotta get lucky to get it on. I blame Shakespeare!

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  35. this is interesting, an interesting opinion. However, we (in Russia) now have a Valentine's Day are more like a formality. But I remember when I first heard about this day in 1987, we are still pupils at school at the time of Valentine's Day told a teacher of English. And with some trepidation I waited every year this holiday, a girlfriend to write a valentine card :)).
    (sorry for bad english)

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